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When you remind your child to use her manners, you're not raising her to be compliant, you're raising her to know how to carry herself in the world.
Posted: January 24, 2017, 10:19 pm
I've seen the vaccination debate from many angles, and I think I can help clear some things up. Above all, I want to make it clear to those frightened parents that there's nothing to be afraid of. Here are the most common concerns I hear, and some responses.
Posted: October 21, 2014, 7:18 pm
I've worked with children and their parents across two continents and two decades, and what I've seen in recent years alarms me. Here are the greatest problems, as I see them.
Posted: July 2, 2014, 8:47 pm
We cannot expect our children to come into the world as patient and understanding as the Buddha. Teaching them patience teaches them how to operate in the world as healthy, well-adjusted adults. It teaches them how to monitor their emotions and how to think of others.
Posted: May 23, 2014, 3:10 pm
Yes, my mum taught me how to eat properly and wait my turn in a queue, but really what I grasped is that manners are about respect -- respect for my friends, my family, my environment and especially my elders.
Posted: May 8, 2014, 5:24 pm
As a nanny and parenting consultant, I have long espoused that we are doing our children a disservice by catering to their every need and catching their every fall. But it's a hard message for parents to internalize, even harder for them to come out and say, and harder still to publish a blog about it!
Posted: May 2, 2014, 7:46 pm
There's nothing wrong with children asking for as much as they'd like to. At a young age, they don't know any better. What's wrong is when parents see that list as a "to-buy" list instead of a "wish" list.
Posted: December 20, 2013, 12:02 am
Sarah Clark was worried about her 3-year-old daughter. Adrienne had multiple temper tantrums an hour, hour after hour, and their house was constantly filled with her screaming.
Posted: December 11, 2013, 3:23 pm
Parents claim to want a saner lifestyle where an evening is characterized more by play than by traffic. But what does this new awareness actually mean?
Posted: October 3, 2013, 10:03 pm
If you don't plan ahead, you're likely to find yourself over budget and exhausted before the school year even begins. So once you've made a list of all the books, pens, and binders for your kids, take a moment to think through what to get this fall for yourself.
Posted: September 3, 2013, 10:37 pm
From baby boxes to paternity leave, tax breaks to birthing classes, here are some of the most interesting systems in place in the countries where I've worked as a nanny.
Posted: August 5, 2013, 12:53 pm
He Kicked Me First!: Real-Life Families, Bullying, and the Controversial <em>Pediatrics</em> Sibling Study
As a longtime advocate of allowing children to work out problems by themselves, I was surprised by the summaries I heard of the study. Did it really say that parents should step in to sort out their children's conflicts, lest children fall victim to serious emotional harm?
Posted: July 8, 2013, 7:32 pm
Hands Off! Parenting Wisdom From Around the World: A Review of Christine Gross-Loh's <em>Parenting Without Borders</em>
Being a good parent means putting our children's needs before our own. We should monitor children's TV habits to protect them from inappropriate media exposure. Most American and British parents trust in these fundamental truths. But what if some of them weren't universal at all?
Posted: June 19, 2013, 7:25 pm
They say that those who fight the hardest are those who are the most alike, so perhaps it shouldn't have surprised me that when it comes to parenting, the English and the French have quite a bit in common.
Posted: May 21, 2013, 10:57 pm
If you have a picky eater who's well out of toddlerhood, do not despair! Whether you've gotten a bit off track with meals or are just starting to introduce solid foods, now is the perfect time to get going in the right direction.
Posted: May 16, 2013, 8:56 pm
After working in England, Germany and the United States and hearing from friends who live all over the world, I've noticed a few places where modern American parents could use a bit of extra coaching.
Posted: May 1, 2013, 6:15 pm
Somehow, over the last fifteen years, parents have increasingly embraced the idea that rules are for other people's children, and that bending them to make things easier in the short term is a good idea.
Posted: March 28, 2013, 6:47 pm
Being on all three sides of a guest list -- inviter, invited and uninvited -- can help children not only become more resilient, but also more conscientious and empathetic. It's up to parents to use parties as opportunities for chats about friendship, kindness, and etiquette.
Posted: March 11, 2013, 7:28 pm
There's something magical about going into a bookshop or library with a child who's just learning to read by herself. The sense of wonder is infectious, and you can almost see new ideas popping up as children excitedly survey the shelves and reach out to the books that call to them.
Posted: February 25, 2013, 9:06 pm
It's hard to tell which recently published books will stand the test of time, but in my decades of experience as a nanny, I've learned what to look for: Books that are designed to be read <em>with </em>children, not <em>to </em>them. Here are some of my recent favorites.
Posted: February 12, 2013, 12:06 am
Children need challenges and increased expectations as they age, but change can be scary, and offering rewards -- coupled with choice and a sense of autonomy -- helps make their introduction smoother.
Posted: January 28, 2013, 5:31 pm
While it's natural for parents to want to give their children everything, make sure that along with toys and praise, you give your children the regular reinforcement that makes thankfulness a part of who they are, not just something they do.
Posted: January 14, 2013, 2:25 am
The English are truly great at bringing up resilient, well-mannered, brave, and kind children. Too many parents -- in our own country and across the Western world -- have lost sight of what we've always done right.
Posted: December 4, 2012, 10:17 pm